Human relationships are often dominated by comparisons and competitions, from the early years of our lives.
We think about succeeding in terms of someone else losing – if I win, you lose, if you win, I lose.
It’s the mentality of fighting for a larger piece of the pie.
But what if both of us could eat some of the pie and be fully satisfied?
This is what the Fourth Habit is all about – transforming life into a cooperative field instead of a competition.
The idea is to have the courage to seek mutual benefit from all human interactions instead of having winners on the one side and losers on the other.
Achieving a “Win-Win” way of interacting with others is more than just being nice or looking for a quick fix. In fact, a Win-Win solution isn’t easy.
When it is not possible to reach a Win-Win solution, then you should suggest a “No Deal.”
What is the Fourth Habit
Who else could explain the Fourth Habit better than Stephen Covey himself? Check out this video and also have a good laugh with the people in the audience:
Are you a fan of animations or do you just want to present the Fourth Habit to someone else as well, without asking them to pay attention to a long video?
This video presents the Win-Win paradigm from a laid-back perspective, without missing any substance in the process:
The difference between the Win-Lose and Win-Win paradigms can be observed in multiple media productions, such as the 2012 Wreck-It Ralph animation film (this 1-minute video will tell you what it’s all about and probably encourage you to look for the movie as well).
Why is the Fourth Habit so Important?
The Fourth Habit has a profound impact on the quality of your relationships. It helps build long lasting trust that will make all interactions a lot easier.
It will bring more “luck” in your life, too.
In Covey’s terms, the Fourth Habit helps make deposits in the emotional bank account of the person you are dealing with.
Working with a mentality of abundance can change how you see work and life in general.
Rather than feeling envious for someone else’s success, you will be genuinely be energized by it.
It takes conscious practice so start today :)