The action lies at the heart of the coaching. If you want to achieve change in your life, it’s not enough just to recognize and understand the issue. You need to do something out of the box if you want to see a different outcome.
And yet, so many of us are reluctant to commit to an action or a goal in case we fail.
It’s actually a completely normal, and logical response. Our brains hate the unknown and scared of going out of their comfort zone. The unknown is unpredictable and might be filled with potential threats and dangers. Wanting to create something new doesn’t mean that you are somehow lacking or not enough exactly as you are. You are whole and complete and imperfectly perfect. You don’t need to change a single thing.
Now, let’s move on to the practical side and discuss how to set everyday goals that are achievable.
In order to set achievable goals, it should be specific like “I want to get outside more often” which is not helpful. How much and where you want to get outside is more? How will you know you’ve done enough? And that is an important question for anyone with a perfectionist mindset. Because it will be enough unless you specify how much. For example, a client stated that “I want to walk more” to “I’m going to go for a 30-minute walk every day at 3 pm”. It would have been better if he had specified where he will walk for 30 minutes.
Everyone likes things to be perfect. But nothing is perfect maybe pretty close but not perfect. That means that you’ll end up doing nothing. Because you don’t know how to make things perfect. So aim for less like 60% of your total work, which is far more likely to make a difference in the world than A* work that never even made it out of your brain.
Too many things on the plate
Working towards multiple goals at the same time is not a bad thing. But, focusing on so many goals will not let you set a priority. If you feel like you’re never fully accomplishing one task or can’t seem to recognize which things are a top priority, there’s a good chance you have set too many goals at once A lot of us like to think we’re masters of multitasking but that is not the case. Do not overload yourself, learn to prioritize, and you’ll reach your goals faster.
Fear of Failure
Not achieving a target because of the fear of failure and insecurity can seriously hold you back in life. Nobody likes to fail, and a fear of failure often stems from a need for perfectionism. The avoidance of taking risks, however, is not a solution to go through life. The good thing is that by looking at why you may have a fear of failing, you can try to overcome the fear and avoid letting it sabotage your goals
Make Room for your goals
Scheduling and organizing is a very useful habit in order to achieve something. Try making room for your goals. Note down your goals in the diary. It’s non-negotiable. Start showing up for yourself and your priorities. You’ll start trusting yourself, that sense that you have your own back when it comes to things that are important to you. It’ll also make you differentiate among the goals which are set on high priority.
Give yourself less time
This may sound illogical but according to Parkinson’s Law “work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion”. You’ll be amazed to see the results that how much you can achieve if you give yourself an hour and only an hour.
They do not focus
Achieving your goals is all about focusing on the right things. You can set a lot of goals, but you must prioritize according to the intensity and chose which goal is the most important goal to focus on. You cannot be successful if you choose to be the jack of all trades and master of none means it is better to have one goal achieved than to have ten uncompleted goals.
Failure Doesn’t Define You
If you are currently in a state where you are not able to achieve your goals/targets, it doesn’t mean that you will fail again in the future again. Your current situation doesn’t define you. It is just where you are right now. When you fail to reach your goals, it doesn’t mean that you are a failure. So don’t let your failure defines who you are, for example, if you lose money in the stock market once, it doesn’t mean that you’ll lose again, try to take it as a lesson and come up with a better plan next time
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